Wedding Regrets, Lessons and What I’d do Differently
I don’t have regrets about my wedding day (weekend) per se, just maybe small changes I would have done different - and it’s all sentimental which I am sure a lot of brides and grooms can relate to. I think it must be the saddest thing to regret parts of your day or regret the way you did it but for us, it really did work out the best for us and it’s the little things I wish I’d done in hindsight….
Filming Dad’s speech - My Dad luckily wrote his speech on paper so he could have prompts when he stood up to say his words and he’s since written it up for me too so I’ll always have a copy but I wish I’d got someone to film it. I know a portion of mine was filmed but unless a guest has footage I haven’t seen (in which case, hit me up) then my Dad’s was lost to memory only and that’s a shame because I think the beauty of a father of brides speech is everyone’s reactions and the laughter.
Eating more - I didn’t eat a thing over the whole weekend and that IS a major regret of mine. I know the food was so good because we did a taster back in December and the choice of pie was slightly pushed by me because it was my fav and I didn’t even eat the bloody thing. I don’t think I could have convinced myself to eat more over the weekend because it was alllll nerves and excitement but I wish I could have tried.
Someone filming me and my niece - Again, something that was missed unless someone has a sneaky film I haven’t been sent was me and my niece on our own on the dance floor. It was one of my happiest memories of the night and our photographer was out of the room and nobody was looking our way but I wish I had a little vid of it or some photos of that special moment.
Family photos with extended family - We had photos taken with our parents, siblings and my nieces but we didn’t have any done with extended family like cousins, aunts and uncles. We were after very casual photos so it wasn’t something I’d considered, in fact I’d actively tried to avoid being out of the party for hours taking formal family photos but I wish in hindsight we’d had some candid photos with people like Jos’ grandmothers.
Speaking to people - Obviously I spoke to people all weekend, I didn’t stop for a moment but there were some guests I wish I’d had a chance to speak to more and some I know I never actually got to speak one on one to at all. Our evening guests arrived as we were taking photos with the sparklers and lots only stayed an hour or two on a cold February night so by the time I’d had a bite of a pork roll, had a dance and been collared by lots of people I know I didn’t speak to our Mum’s friends as much as I would have liked to.
Dancing more (and specifically, with Jos) - When I think back on it I really didn’t dance for that much of the night in the grand scheme of things, instead mingling and weaving in and out of people. I danced for the hour between the music starting and my niece’s leaving and I danced to the last 3 or 4 songs of the night but in between I caught the odd song here and there and I wish I’d done more of that because it looked so fun and I missed out on so many classic moments. I also danced with Jos specifically to about 3 songs in total including the first dance and I think we should have done more of that.